It is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. It is a mystery
why some love grows and its is a mystery why some love fails. You can
analyze this mystery mad look for reasons and causes, but you will never do
any more that take life out of the experience.
Just as life it self is more than the sum of the bones and muscles and
electrical impulses in the body, love is more than the sum of the
interest and attractions and commonalties that the two people share.
And just as life itself is a gift that come and goes in its own time, so too,
the coming of love must be taken as an unfathomable gift that cannot
be questioned in its ways.
Sometimes, hopefully at least once in your life the gift of love will
come to you in full power, and you will take hold of it and celebrate it
in all inexpressible beauty. This is a dream we all share. More often, It
will come and take hold of you, celebrate you for a brief moment, then
move on.
When this happens to young people, they too often try to grasp the love
and hold it to them, refusing to see that is a gift that is freely given and
a gift that just as freely, moves away.
When they fall out of love, or the person they feels the spirit of love
leaving, then hey try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost rather
then accepting the gift for what it was,then moving on.
They want answer where there are no answer. They want to know what
is wrong in them that makes the person no longer love them, or they
try to get their love to change, thinking that if some small things were
different, love would bloom again. They blame their circumstances and
say that if they go far away and start a new life together, their love will
grow.
Then they try anything to give meaning to what has happened. But
there is no meaning beyond the love itself, and until they accept its
own mysterious ways; they live in a sea of misery.
You need to know this about love, and to accept it. You need to treat
what it brings you with kindness. If you find yourself in love with
someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is
nothing wrong with you love just didnt choose to rest in the other
persons heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and you dont love him/ her,
feels honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuses
the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage; do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel
the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different.
If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then
love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to asses blame. Let it
go.
There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.
Remember that you dont choose love. Love chooses you. All you can
really do accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel
the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deemed it poor in spirit. Give it to world
around you in anyway you can. That is where lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a
need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by
love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to
them rather that from them.
The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love
cools, they revert to seeing their love as a need. They cease to be
someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks
love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can
be made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its
own seasons, and its own reasons for coming and going. You cannot
bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it
when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your
lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.
Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it
came to live for a moment in your life.
IF you keep your heart open , it will come again.
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