Dark Alleys / Telltale Heart
Dark Alleys
I am writing you out of complete frustration. I am a divorced mother of an 11-year-old son and a businesswoman who has had good relationships with men over the years. I’ve never had trouble finding or keeping friends. I believe to have a friend you have to be a friend, you treat everybody correctly, and you stay away from troubled people.
There’s a man I’ve known over 25 years. We’ve seen each other through marriages and relationships. We talk on the phone for hours. However, after his second marriage failed four years ago, I believe he came out damaged. We had never been intimate, but two years ago I thought I would give it a try because I always found him attractive.
Well, I discovered that while he’s a great lover, he is narcissistic, a sadist, and completely devoid of concern for other people’s feelings. I am amazed I never knew this about him, but maybe I wasn’t interested in knowing. He claims he won’t have a relationship with me unless I am on his page and submissive to his wishes.
I am sad for him. He’s really changed. He’s exploiting what he knows about my nature for his own benefit. This relationship spells trouble, but I can’t seem to let go.
Libby
Libby, though many knew him, the only people who realized Ted Bundy was a serial killer were women within a few moments of dying at his hands. In like fashion, we doubt this man’s nature has changed over the last few years. He is one of those who think, “Everyone else on the planet is a sheep, and I am the only human being.” He is also shrewd enough to conceal who he is.
For over a hundred years researchers have experimented with up-down reversing prisms. These are glasses which turn the world upside down. The first time people wear up-down glasses they careen into walls and tables, but eventually their brain adjusts to life in a topsy-turvy world.
That is what this man wants you to do. You know you can’t cure someone else’s cancer. But somehow you think you have the power to change him.
Certain sayings resonate within us: move toward the light, follow your true path, be all you can be. They are not as precise as a map, but they point to the general direction our deep self knows to follow. With each person and in each new endeavor we need to ask if this leads toward our growth and development, or toward a deepening relationship with Ted Bundy.
Wayne & Tamara
Telltale Heart<éb>
My boyfriend told me I didn’t trust him, so I decided I would. But upon growing trust for him I found out he sent a comment to a girl on MySpace (MySpace, the root of all relationship problems). It said, “I knew if you wanted to hang out with me you would have called me. I guess you’re just scared you might like me.” Is this something I should be worried about, or something I should forget?
Val
Val, in one episode of “Torchwood” Tosh is given a pendant which allows her to hear others’ thoughts. To her dismay she learns that Owen, the man she has a crush on, sees her as needy. Not only does Owen not fancy her, he is snogging Gwen. Tosh’s new knowledge should allow her to move on. She has been released from the delusion Owen is her everything.
Though they don’t act this way, people who love each other can peek and peek and pry and pry, and not find anything about the other they didn’t want to know.
Your boyfriend is berating another girl for not meeting him. You’ve seen into his soul. Act from that knowledge.
We shouldn’t fear reality. We should fear the illusions we try to maintain in the face of reality.
Wayne & Tamara
Authors and columnists Wayne and Tamara Mitchell can be reached at www.WayneAndTamara.com.
Send letters to: Direct Answers, PO Box 964, Springfield, MO 65801 or email: DirectAnswers@WayneAndTamara.com . |
Posted on Oct 30, 2007 by Site Admin
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