January 31, 2005
Call Of The Wild
A male coworker continually touches everyone's food. For example, at an office
birthday party, he walks over to the cake, runs his index finger the entire
length of the cake where the frosting is really thick, then sticks a big glob of
frosting in his mouth.
At another meeting, six cups of Diet Coke are poured and sitting on the table
and the person pouring the drinks is waiting for the foam to go down. This man
walks over and sticks his finger into all six claiming "it will help the foam go
down." At a team lunch in a nice restaurant someone asks him to pass a roll.
He reaches in, grabs a roll, and hands it over after cramming the other rolls in
his mouth.
People make comments and ask him not to touch the food, to no avail. We're tired
of racing to the food before he gets there and paws it.
Ashley
Ashley, animals, birds, and fish mark their territory. Like miners in a gold
rush, they know whoever holds the territory gains the power. Your coworker is
trying to establish dominance and control over the team. His actions say, "I
rule you guys." Not only are his actions unappetizing, but his unwashed hands
spread germs.
His behavior needs to stop, but reasoned discussion isn't getting you anywhere.
Why not take a lesson from the animal kingdom and apply it to your problem?
Wolves in a pack are ruled by an alpha male and an alpha female. The alphas
dominate the others and enforce rules in their territory. When a challenger
wolf appears, the rest of the pack lie back and let an alpha take over. The
alpha lets the intruder know in no uncertain terms who owns the territory and
has the power.
Your employer is the alpha in your workplace. He or she owns the territory and
has the power to enforce the rules. Your coworker doesn't have the rank or
title which allow him to rule over the rest of your group, so he is trying to
steal rank by marking the food of the team.
He is violating the food of the "pack" and usurping the power of the alpha.
Let your boss know you need protection. Anything that hurts his pack,
undermines his authority and hurts his team. That's why the pack loves and
respects the alpha, and looks to him or her for protection.
If your rank in the "pack" is not high enough to approach the alpha directly,
clip this column and send it to your boss with the intruder's name.
Wayne & Tamara
Simple Facts
My boyfriend and the father of my daughter broke up with me a couple of weeks
ago. We were together six years. Last year he moved eight hours away to get
himself together and find a good job. Since then he has started a drug and
alcohol treatment program.
He said he needed to concentrate on the program and not see anyone, which came
to be a lie. He is seeing someone else. I find it hard to move on. We always
talked about being together. I care deeply for him and am not sure what to do.
Sarah
Sarah, as we live life, there are certain elements which are simple facts. The
sky is blue. The earth revolves around the sun. And when the man we want
chooses someone else, we move on.
Wanting a man who has chosen another woman is like craving a pair of shoes which
are too small. How could you ever convince yourself he loves you? A man who
loves you tells you not only in his words, but with his every action. A man who
loves you makes you his own.
The longer you pursue a man who isn't right for you, the longer you delay the
arrival of the man who is.
Tamara
Authors and columnists Wayne and Tamara Mitchell can be reached at
www.WayneAndTamara.com.
Send letters to: Direct Answers, PO Box 964, Springfield, MO 65801 or email:
DirectAnswers@WayneAndTamara.com. |
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